• Do everyday conversations seem to turn instantly into bitter arguments, criticisms, defensiveness, or personal attacks?
  • Do you feel like you are spinning your wheels, that you never get anywhere on the important issues that divide you?
  • Do you avoid each other or certain conversations because you know nothing good ever comes from those conversations?
  • Do you no longer feel connected and wonder what happened to the intimacy you used to share?
  • Do you feel stuck and unsure if there is a way forward?
  • Are you afraid you are beginning to live like roommates or have you been living like roommates for years?
  • Do one or both of you take things personally more often than not?
  • Has the revelation of an affair turned you and your relationship upside down?